The Decolonial Parent

a continuous work in progress

Author: Ella

  • to stick or fold? how 2020 taught me lessons for the future

    to stick or fold? how 2020 taught me lessons for the future

    Learning where to stick and when to fold. When to follow through, and where to alter course. What are the risks and what are the gains, and how to judge the cost?

  • to infinite suffering, and beyond!

    to infinite suffering, and beyond!

    These feelings of helplessness, of loneliness, of creativity, of community, of longing, of fear; all of the feelings that have surfaced as 2020 has elapsed, collapsed, and relapsed, none of them are new. These feelings already existed in our world, in our carefully-ordered states of work and leisure. Loneliness, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, and other…

  • a challenge or a lesson?

    a challenge or a lesson?

    It’s ok to quit as long as we learn. Time to sit down and be humble.

  • empires of information

    empires of information

    Why “the Internet”, my childhood palace of wonder and freedom, is now a sinister web of clickbait, pop ups, influencers, cookies, and lies.

  • why i don’t follow my own advice

    why i don’t follow my own advice

    The most unhelpful approach I can take to my repeated failures is believing that they define me. I may fail frequently, but I try to make up for it each time. If I can’t improve my executive skills, at the very least I won’t surrender to them.

  • training for life

    training for life

    Reasons why any pre-defined training plan (whether found on social media or purchased from a reputable wellness professional) can only do so much – and why I don’t sell training plans.

  • lessons from plants

    lessons from plants

    It’s been a year since I first started propagating plants from single leaves, and this seems as good a time as any to share the lessons they’ve been teaching me.

  • a sip of productivi-tea

    a sip of productivi-tea

    The underlining tenet of productivity is the belief that what exists right now is not enough. It is antithetical to wealth or health or joy.

  • we contain multitudes

    we contain multitudes

    No matter how fixed you feel your position is right now, you contain multitudes. You are in all directions at the same time and you exist in both the light and shadow.

  • on being enough

    on being enough

    Neocolonialism is just another name for colonialism, the media-friendly offshore tax haven of imperialism, whereby those in power set a standard for the rest of us to fall short of. Neocolonialism hinges on our core belief that we are not enough, and must therefore buy products and services that improve us sufficiently to become acceptable,…

  • working on enjoying this moment

    working on enjoying this moment

    It can be all too easy to look for the good in a situation or get bogged down by the bad, but the key lesson I’ve been learning this year is accepting the full picture. And that goes for myself as well.

  • tend to your crops

    tend to your crops

    How we navigate our way through these turbulent times will define our collective future, and we have enough recorded history behind us by this point that we know it could go either way. With all that we have at stake, we’d be forgiven for abandoning hope.